My friend and I were having a discussion about this particular topic the other day and it prompted me to post it. Can mutually attractive people really be platonic friends without any lustful or emotional feelings ?
I think it has been unwritten in most societies that this is in itself not possible based on social conditioning and assumptions. If this person ‘looks this way’ and the other ‘looks that way’ then the percentage chance that they are together is…..?. What is even more interesting is how the body speaks when both of these persons interact. That is, friendship is the relationship but overt flirtatious actions may take place unconsciously.
So my friend stated that in his eyes these hot and mentally stimulating females were very good friends but if they allowed him to he would get intimate with them. So of course I went to other friends both male and female to conjure more data. Surprisingly the responses were not very far from that of initial statement.
So my friend stated that in his eyes these hot and mentally stimulating females were very good friends but if they allowed him to he would get intimate with them. So of course I went to other friends both male and female to conjure more data. Surprisingly the responses were not very far from that of initial statement.
What exactly is the nature of these relationships?
Is it a subliminal waiting game for the right time to make that move?
Or is it just a means of delighting that selfish desire to be in contact with the person based on the fact that you are not together intimately, but still keeping that door/option open?
Is there no true friendship in that sense but rather a shared association that both recognize each other’s attractive attributes? A kind of fulfillment through association.
Also, it can be said that we have been socialized to automatically respond to persons of the opposite sex if they are mentally and physically attractive as we are. Even nature can be blamed as we can be said to be hardwired to be on the lookout for the alpha male or alpha female.
The argument is that subconsciously we recognize that the person is attractive to us but our conscious minds keep us from acting on impulses. What happens though when we are inebriated and the classic 'I wasn't thinking straight' syndrome happens. Is that the true proof of the theory? Many can attest to this occurring in friendships with others considered attractive platonic friends.
What do you think ? ( I have a feeling that the women are going to have profuse sexist generalizations on this topic LOL. Yikes i am outnumbered)
