Attraction and the Misdirection of the Ideal

Misdirection in magic takes advantage of the limits of the human mind in order to give the wrong picture and memory. The mind can concentrate on only one thing at a time so the magician uses this to manipulate the "victim's" idea of how the world is supposed to be.

Man has truly taken this to another level and rewritten the laws of attraction through misdirection. The ornaments and rituals that has personified the art of attraction for centuries has been taken over by science in the form of MAC makeup, steroids, breast and butt implants therefore making things a bit blurry with regards to the 'Ideal' partner. The first thought of a symmetrical figure may not be an indication of health but rather 'are those real"? along with the extreme  "is that a man or woman" ? 

Most know that the first impression is the lasting impression so the physical aspect does have its role in interpersonal relationship, but are complimenting interests and the mental arena being replaced by the iconizing of  cosmetic features and material resources to attract that special someone. So what then is the ideal? A cosmetic facade or the image projected from the inside? Have we as humans shifted this paradigm into that which is mainly physical only to be haunted when we enter these "superficial" relationships. This is easily demonstrated in most Hollywood relationships where image rules and scandalous breakups abound. 

More observation indicates that we may also be inadvertently misdirecting intentions. Scenario: She gets dolled up, puts on the push up bra and sexy black dress and hits the bar or club searching for that perfect man. But is she already setting herself up for disaster. it is proven scientifically that exposure of skin and breasts has the opposite effect on men mentally and physically to facilitate the production of sexual hormones in the male body (putting the man in sex mode). In light of this will a  mans first thought will be "i wonder what type of books she likes to read?" So in turn women may just objectifying themselves in the process and perpetuating the cycle. 

Furthermore, I have been accosted by a loyal reader on the point that most men lament on the type of ideal woman they want but settle down with the complete opposite or find that ideal, stick her in the house and go out and cheat anyway. 

Women have also been the source of controversy being able misdirect attention on how they are deep down and pull a grand illusion of the ideal mate.Portraying the image of the perfect woman early on the relationship only to make a 180 and put it 6"6 once the prize is attained. 

Is this innate or are we just socialized to be greedy, conniving bastards not really knowing what we want? Thats another topic (look out for it) . But is this all the fault of misdirection ? The opposite sex using the tools of sexual and material imagery to capture the attention of the 'victim"; therefore manipulating the outcome or are we just enhancing that which is of the natural world. Should we strive to stand above this or accept our primal instincts?

Do we really ever drop the physical modes and move to locations that typify what we want in someone? If we want to meet a sincere and unselfish person why do we not get involved at the shelter or children’s home better yet do some charity work. It seems basic reasoning... yes ? But why isn't this the normal practice? I think this proves that who we are with most times is exactly who we are meant to be with often shallow, instinct driven and selfish people. The stark fact is that we may all know what we want but are just too disappointed in ourselves to admit it when it goes against our socialized values of virtue and good will. 

Alas I think for most of us humans we have regressed into being purely animals, driven by what is in plane sight, oblivious to that which takes deeper thought to appreciate. Please let me know what you think.